So, people get married and divorced everyday. Unfortunately, I know of several marriages, including mine, which ended within the past year. I know marriage is honorable and of the Lord, but what's the problem? Marriage is a covenant between man, woman and God until death do us part. But divorce came in because people were not living the way they were called by God to live. Divorce is rampant in the church so how do we figure out what's going wrong?
I thought about the marital bond and to me it felt more like marital bondage. A bond between to people is seamless, you will not see where one end begins and the other ends. However, when one is in bondage you can clearly see the ropes that bind that person. Their hands may be tied in front of them where they can see the bondage, or the hands may be behind their back where they cannot clearly see the bonds. That was my case. I didn't go into the marriage thinking "if this doesn't work, I'll get a divorce" I truly married "till death do us part." But there comes a time when the bondage begins to stifle your growth and impede your breathing. It becomes a time when you have to choose life over tradition and even stability. It's easy to continue doing what you've always done because it's comfortable even when it's killing you. It takes courage and faith to launch into the deep and step out on the water.
I wish I would not have gotten divorced, but more importantly I wish I would have been more prayerful before I got married. I was not walking with the Lord at the time I decided to get married and so I was not making the decision according to the Word. However, there are people that I know who met their mate in the church, got counseling, got married and are now in the process of getting divorce. Will marriage survive?
I would love to get married again, but my next husband will have a high price to pay. I will trust my instincts at every hand and at the first sign that things don't look right, I'm out. Now, some may say that it's not fair to punish someone for my ex's transgressions. But I feel that I am more happy and whole by myself than I am in bondage to an anchor that's sinking.
I still believe in marriage and think that it's a beautiful thing. I think it's a manifestation of the union that occurs between God the Father and Jesus, His son. But there are a lot of kinks that need to be worked out in our modern day marriage to keep us out of bondage. I think when I see the seamless joining of myself and another in a way that makes me a better person and makes me love myself and God more, then I'll consider creating a marital bond.
I thought about the marital bond and to me it felt more like marital bondage. A bond between to people is seamless, you will not see where one end begins and the other ends. However, when one is in bondage you can clearly see the ropes that bind that person. Their hands may be tied in front of them where they can see the bondage, or the hands may be behind their back where they cannot clearly see the bonds. That was my case. I didn't go into the marriage thinking "if this doesn't work, I'll get a divorce" I truly married "till death do us part." But there comes a time when the bondage begins to stifle your growth and impede your breathing. It becomes a time when you have to choose life over tradition and even stability. It's easy to continue doing what you've always done because it's comfortable even when it's killing you. It takes courage and faith to launch into the deep and step out on the water.
I wish I would not have gotten divorced, but more importantly I wish I would have been more prayerful before I got married. I was not walking with the Lord at the time I decided to get married and so I was not making the decision according to the Word. However, there are people that I know who met their mate in the church, got counseling, got married and are now in the process of getting divorce. Will marriage survive?
I would love to get married again, but my next husband will have a high price to pay. I will trust my instincts at every hand and at the first sign that things don't look right, I'm out. Now, some may say that it's not fair to punish someone for my ex's transgressions. But I feel that I am more happy and whole by myself than I am in bondage to an anchor that's sinking.
I still believe in marriage and think that it's a beautiful thing. I think it's a manifestation of the union that occurs between God the Father and Jesus, His son. But there are a lot of kinks that need to be worked out in our modern day marriage to keep us out of bondage. I think when I see the seamless joining of myself and another in a way that makes me a better person and makes me love myself and God more, then I'll consider creating a marital bond.